{"id":506,"date":"2021-02-11T11:16:31","date_gmt":"2021-02-11T15:16:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/regaldaughtersofgod.com\/?p=506"},"modified":"2021-05-04T18:11:32","modified_gmt":"2021-05-04T22:11:32","slug":"45-i-wanted-a-husband-so-i-petitioned-the-throne-of-grace-for-one","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/regaldaughtersofgod.com\/courting-or-engaged-daughters\/45-i-wanted-a-husband-so-i-petitioned-the-throne-of-grace-for-one\/","title":{"rendered":"45. I WANTED A HUSBAND SO I PETITIONED THE THRONE OF GRACE FOR ONE"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

(The Courting or Engaged Series – Batch 2)<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

On 11th April, 2016, as a single woman, I wrote:<\/em><\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For many years, from maybe my early twenties, I prayed to God asking him for a husband.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A family of my own was something I had always dreamed of because I love to serve. I had tried things my way in the past and it had not worked out and so from the age of about twenty four, I learned the painful way, that the choice of a marriage partner is a choice best made by God.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From that point, I began asking God to keep every man that was not THE ONE he had chosen for me, far from me and to only allow THE ONE that he had appointed to be my husband, to make it through to my heart and life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

God was faithful to what I had prayed and for many years, men showed interest but none dared come close because they were not the right ones for me. I even got my expectations broken at one point, where I believed that someone with whom I had to associate closely with at church for about two years for Ministry purposes, was \u2018maybe\u2019 THE ONE God wanted for me to marry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Although I secretly hoped, I prayed though, that if he was not to be THE ONE, that God would remove him from around me. For reasons which I may never fully understand though and in God\u2019s wisdom, he kept him around me nonetheless, for a time. It so turned out that he was not THE ONE and I grieved for shattered hope at the possibility that he could have been but I know that almighty God knows best.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In retrospect, I think that God allowed us to be around each other for a time, as he saw fit, to develop things in both of our characters that were lacking or to highlight certain behaviours within ourselves we needed to address. If it is one thing I know about God is that he is an all-wise God and his methods and his ways are past finding out. Everything he allows in the lives of his children is for purpose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Over the years, I often wondered why I was not being approached, even by the few men that I had a genuine interest in. This included the one I wrote of previously, that had shown (in my view), definite signs of wanting to get to know me better. However, whenever I began wondering why, I would then remember my prayer to God. I had sincerely asked him to keep all men from me, including good Christian men, if they were not his perfect will for my life and until he was ready for me to court and marry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Clearly, God was not yet ready to send me my husband. For starters, he was still working on some things in me and I believe he honoured my prayer. Thank God!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have never been the one to keep trying boyfriends until it worked out. From as early as my teens, I always knew in my heart that I was to be the wife of ONE and was to be reserved for ONE. I therefore felt no need to date around. If I felt that someone was showing me interest but I knew that I was not interested in turn and especially that our values were not aligned, I would shut that down immediately!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a foolish and naive girl with low self-esteem and looking desperately for love and attention though, I made a blunder somewhere between the age of twenty and twenty-three, where I opened up my heart to the wrong man. After suffering a broken heart (which I deserved for being disobedient to God and not waiting on him to make the choice), I learned my lesson, repented and was particularly careful to stay single, unattached and in no way involved with anyone, until God was ready to bring THE ONE.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I knew that somehow he would give me confirmation when that time came and so I waited…and waited…and waited.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It has not been easy being single all of these years but it has certainly gotten easier with time. I can now say that I don\u2019t feel rushed to find a husband to marry and I fully trust God to work out everything in his timing. He is a God that makes all things beautiful in his time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In March, 2016 however (I don\u2019t know but somehow 2016 was a year that made me spend quality time thinking about marriage and a spouse), I decided to put a prayer down on paper so that I could address clearly, certain things that I wanted in a spouse, when I approached God to petition for one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This prayer was not like the prayers I had prayed before. It was more aggressive, bold, faith-filled (as if the thing was already done) and was presented with confidence before the Lord. It was as if I sensed that God was getting ready to bring the spouse of HIS choice into my life and I felt the need to pray a different way than I had ever prayed before about the issue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I still continued to pray spontaneously about a spouse but some days, I would pull out the prayer I had carefully written and pray to God from it. Since the simple reciting of prayers will get you nowhere, I was always careful to ensure that when I prayed from what I had prepared, it was still coming from my heart and not just my head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every person\u2019s prayer and needs would be different so I cannot recommend it as THE prayer that should be said when desiring a spouse. However, it summed up the things that were important to me and I therefore prayed it earnestly, from my heart, trusting God to honour each one of my requests.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I came boldly to the throne of grace about a husband because of four (4) things:<\/p>\n\n\n\n