You can’t do classy and tacky at the same time. You just can’t. You can’t want to look classy and have your cleavage exposed or your dress too tight or too short or your ensemble just too revealing and exposing too much skin.
Classy is best achieved through stylish, attractive, refined but modest attire and worn especially by a person who knows her value in Christ Jesus.
Never confuse classy with tacky. Never confuse classy with cheap. We send a message to the world in how we carry ourselves and in what we wear. We either tell them we are dignified, respect-worthy, precious and valuable or we are cheap, sluttish, easy and have believed the world’s lie that our body is our only or greatest asset and that in which all our value is derived.
In light of this, my question to you is what message are you sending? You know exactly what clothes are in your wardrobe, so you should best be able to answer this question.
As stated before, what you wear, along with how you carry or present yourself, communicates a message to others and to the world in general. It reveals much about you as a person and gives valuable insight, into your value system.
If you do a a search on the internet for the meaning of the word “classy”, you will find definitions like “stylish and sophisticated, having or showing class, elegant, admirably skilful and graceful, having or reflecting high standards of personal behavior.” Conversely, if you research the meaning of the word “tacky”, you will find definitions like, “cheap, flashy, garish, gaudy, loud, tawdry, or trashy.”
On a scale of classy to tacky, where does your wardrobe fit? Are you a modest, stylish dresser or do you feel the need to seductively expose skin? And if you do, why is this? Is it that you think that being covered makes you unattractive?
If you are a daughter of the King, in that you profess to know Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour, you are supposed to embrace modesty. You are supposed to consider your body valuable and keep it for the eyes of your husband only. You are not supposed to be parading your wares to the general public as if you are on a cheap yard sale but to keep your assets, which are valuable, hidden.
1 Timothy 2:8-9 states:
- “I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting. In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.”
The world tries to make you believe that if you are covered in modest apparel and therefore not exposing your physical assets, that you are not going to look attractive or stylish. This is a lie. It does not tell you that in fact, you will look more dignified, respectable and attractive to high quality men of God.
Modesty and style are not mutually exclusive. They can go hand in hand. In the Bible for example, you can tell that the virtuous woman was well clad and stylish but that she aimed for a classy, not tacky vibe. Proverbs 31:22 states of her, “She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.”
Notice that the verse did not say that she exposed cleavage, leg and other parts of her body. She made herself, “coverings”. She wasn’t about exposing but about covering and she did it in style! One gets the impression (although it is not expressly stated), that she was fully clothed. After all, she was a virtuous woman and virtuous women understand their high value in God’s sight and therefore, the importance of modest attire.
It should be noted that God’s daughters can be fashionable, stylish and attractive in their ensemble, while not provocatively revealing skin. When we embrace modesty and stylishness at the same time, we send a message to the world, that one does not have to show nakedness in order to look good, that we do not value ourselves and our worth based on our bodies, that we are dignified, respectable and high value women and that we will NOT be toeing the line that the world has set but standing in objection and stark contrast to it.
And the world takes note. For, how you dress is in stark contrast and opposition to what they perpetuate and therefore, exposes the lie, the folly that they have embraced. This is what light is supposed to do. It is supposed to dispel darkness, not dim its light to accommodate it.
No matter how they try, people in the world can’t achieve that same classy look that you achieve, through their immodest, seductive, sexy-oriented attire. In fact, a woman that dresses stylishly, yet modestly, always looks better than a woman that feels the need to show skin, especially if she is a Christian. The first looks classy, while the other looks cheap, pathetic and tacky.
What are you aiming for? Do you want to be considered a woman of class, worthy of respect and that holds high values or one that is easy, cheap, doesn’t know her value and has loose standards for herself? If you are a Christian or claim to be, who are you most trying to resemble, a daughter of the King or a daughter of Belial?
Based on the Bible, daughters or sons of Belial are ungodly, immoral and love the ways of the world. They have no relationship with God whatsoever and practise a worldly, sinful lifestyle.
If you’re aiming for sexy, seductive, hot, provocative, skin-baring, aggressive and fierce, know that this is not classy and more resembles the way of the world than the way of Christ.
1 John 2:15-17 warns all Christians:
- “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.”
Classy is achieved by creating a look that is high quality, fashionable, lady-like and attractive, without some part of your body trying to get attention and screaming shamelessly, “Look at me!”
Classy is the opposite of worldly because classy, in the true sense of the word, requires not just tasteful style but modesty.
If you’re covered up and still looking stylish and you have the right godly attitude to go with it, then you are on the right track to looking classy and being considered a classy lady. As an aside, you should note, that God’s sons who are serious about godliness are attracted to classy ladies, not those who come across as desperately seductive, insecure and tacky. If you’re single therefore, you should be aiming to look classy. Even if you’re not and you’re courting or already married, classy should be your goal, if you claim to be a Christian. Out of respect for your significant other and God himself, covering yourself stylishly, not exposing, should be your objective. Is it?
Personally, my motto is to be fully clothed and fully elegant. I see what the world has to offer and I denounce and reject its standards as being too low. I am aiming for higher. Instead of being influenced by the world therefore, I insist on raising the bar and allowing it to be influenced by me, as a child of the King. I enjoy doing this, by being stylish, while modest, sending the deliberate message to those in the world and even professing Christians that have sadly embraced the world’s way of dressing, that there is something far more excellent than what the world has to offer. The fact of the matter is that it is possible to be fully clothed and to look far better and stylish and dignified, than those who are dressed immodestly or seductively! In this way, how you dress, becomes part of your testimony, that you serve a God of high standards and excellence, that he is a King and you therefore, of royal lineage, as his child.
Everyday that you make the decision to put on an outfit and even to buy or sew a piece of clothing, you get to decide what opinion society will have of you. The choice is yours. How will you present yourself? What impression do you want to leave and what exactly is in your wardrobe?
In fact, what are your views of yourself and are they aligned with what God says of you in his Word? This is where it all begins. How you view yourself and what you believe in your heart, will determine if you will fall for the world’s lies or not and this will in turn, be revealed in how you dress. As a wise person once said, “Modesty must begin in the heart of a virtuous woman before it can be rightly evidenced in her outward apparel.”
(Written on 22nd January, 2023)
Dear Reader, if you found the above Article to be interesting, informative or beneficial, you may also be interested in reading the following:
- Note 4 – ‘Are You Wife Material?’
- Note 5 – ‘What Are You Wearing And Does God Approve?‘
- Note 6 – ‘Seven (7) Key Traits Of A Virtuous Woman’
- Note 8 – ‘Your Royal Lineage – Daughter Of Dignity’
Also, under the ‘BIBLE-BELIEVING Daughters’ page:
- Note 234 – ‘Who Do You Most Resemble?’
Additionally, under the ‘SINGLE Daughters’ page:
- Note 315 – ‘Celebrating Life, Though Single’