263. NINE (9) LIES THE ENEMY WILL TELL YOU AS A SINGLE CHRISTIAN WOMAN

(The Single Woman Series – Batch 4)

If you are a single Christian woman and you desire to be married, during your waiting season, the enemy will try to get you to believe certain lies so that he can make shipwreck of your faith in the Lord Jesus Christ.

He does this because he knows that you are vulnerable and also because he knows that in the case of some of you, God has something wonderful planned for your future, if you would remain obedient to him and submit to his will. The enemy wants to abort this plan because he can’t stand to see a child of God happy and God’s name being glorified.

My dear single Christian daughters of God therefore, prepare yourself. He will come. He will try to hit you with lies, whether through people or through your own inner voice, especially on those days when you feel down, lonely and a bit impatient with how long it is taking for your season to change.

As a Christian woman seeking to please the Lord, the enemy will tell you that:

1 – Only the men of the world will ever be attracted or interested in you. He tries to get you to believe that you will only ever appeal to the man of the world and that none of God’s high quality sons who are looking for commitment done God’s way and a wife (not a fling), will ever give you the time of day because you don’t have what it takes to attract a sincere, decent, marriage-minded, high quality, God-fearing man.

2 – God has either forgotten you or is mad at you for some reason. This is why he has kept you single all these years.

3 – If you’ve messed up or have backslid, even if you have repented, you no longer have value as a precious daughter of God or your worth has decreased and therefore, you no longer qualify to be a wife and mother or to meet and marry a good, high quality God-sent man. You are ineligible. Although God has forgiven you after you genuinely repented and forsook the sin, the enemy will try to keep you stuck in the past and tell you that God has not let what you did go, that he is still holding it over your head and that as a result, there is no way you can ever make things right or get out of the doghouse you are in because you have been forever cursed.

4 – If you have been waiting for a number of years, you should let go of trusting God to provide and begin to desperately and relentlessly search for a spouse yourself, as your biological baby-making clock is ticking and soon, you’ll be too old to be attractive to anyone.

5 – You are simply not good enough to be a wife because you don’t have what it takes, you don’t measure up to other daughters and therefore, God in his wisdom has not allowed any of his precious sons to cross your path.

6 – It makes no sense to have standards, you should throw them away, compromise and just marry any person who appears to be a Christian and shows you interest. He will tell you that you are too picky, that you need to lower your standards, forget about love, attraction, respect, admiration, common interests, values and beliefs and just settle in desperation for whichever man wants you, once he appears to be God-fearing.

7 – You’re a colossal failure because at your age, you’re still single and have no family of your own.

8 – You simply have too much baggage and too many issues. He tries to convince you that no man is ever going to be patient enough to help you work through your issues or love you enough to be interested in the story of all you’ve been through, prior to meeting him. He will also tell you, that no man will ever be truly invested in your life success and therefore love you selflessly.

9 – Maybe you’re just unattractive, that you don’t have what it takes to get any man interested and therefore, there is no hope for you because you’re ugly or not just good looking enough or too fat or too thin or too pale or too dark or you simply have too many physical imperfections like your teeth that are not entirely straight or too many quirks.

I know that the enemy will try to get you to believe what I have listed above because he tried it with me.

Thankfully, in Isaiah 59:19, it tells us that “When the enemy shall come in like a flood, the Spirit of the Lord shall lift up a standard against him.”

The enemy can bray but we don’t have to listen. We don’t have to believe his lies. When he attacks with his untruths, we should run to God’s Word, where we are reminded of who we are in the Lord Jesus Christ, who our heavenly Father is and of his awesome power.

When the enemy comes, we must ensure that we have our spiritual armour on, as provided for us in Ephesians 6:11-20 and we must make sure to not just defend ourselves from his attacks but use the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God, to deal him some blows as well.

The Bible tells us that if we submit to God and resist the devil, that he will flee from us (James 4:7) and there is no way to better resist than to counteract every lie he whispers with the Word of God.

We must remind that old devil for example, that the Bible tells us that we are accepted in the beloved, that we are a royal priesthood and precious in God’s sight. We must remind him that we have value beyond compare because it is God that has given that value to us. We must let him know that God has already told us in his Word that if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness and that God has already told us that “…eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.” (1 Corinthians 2:9)

If God places such high value on us as our Creator and Redeemer, getting one of his sons, the right one, to notice us and in his right timing and to cause us to also be interested in that man is easy pickings. For some of you reading this Note, it is already a done deal and the enemy is just trying to sour upfront, the beautiful love story that God has planned in your future.

Send the enemy packing therefore with God’s TRUTH.

(Written on 5th November, 2019)

Dear Reader, if you found the above Note to be beneficial, interesting, informative or edifying, you may also be interested in reading the following:

Note 39 – ‘Why The Enemy’s Attack Is My Cue To Sing’
Note 41 – ‘Silencing The Naysayers’
Note 70 – ‘Has He Forgotten Me?’
Note 74 – ‘The Devil Is A Liar’
Note 111 – ‘What The Enemy Is After’
Note 142 – ‘Single Woes – The Battles We Singles Fight Every Day’
Note 146 – ‘Three Idols In the Church: Getting Married, Having Children and Working A Secular Job’
Note 148 – ‘What Does The Bible Say About Being Unequally Yoked With An Unbeliever?’
Note 149 – ‘The Dangers of Matchmaking’