68. WILT THOU GO WITH THIS MAN?

(The Courting or Engaged Series – Batch 3)

In Genesis 24:58, it says of Rebekah’s family and of her response to an indirect proposal that was made to her by Abraham’s servant for her hand in marriage to Isaac, Abraham’s son:

“And they called Rebekah, and said unto her, Wilt thou go with this man? And she said, I will go.”

Convinced that this thing was of the Lord and that she and her soon-to-be husband Isaac were on the same page spiritually, by faith, she agreed to go to be his wife.

Had she had any trepidation, any doubt, any reservations as to whether Isaac was truly committed to the Lord and godly and therefore, that the Lord’s hand of blessing was upon the union, she would not have said yes. She would have said no. Although there were so many unknowns, she had a peace about the situation which only God can give and knew that this was the path she was destined, by God’s grace and at his appointment, to take.

Similarly, today, when we are made an offer as to a romantic relationship or have been proposed to for marriage or there is someone that we have our eyes on, if we have reservations about the guy or we are not agreed on the fundamentals of our faith, even if he “seems” to be a Christian, we ought not to compromise. We must decline any offer, to go. We must say no and stay single, until and unless God decides to bring along Mr. Right, on our path.

Even if we have taken a liking to the guy (as I recently have) and were seriously hoping that he would be THE ONE, OUR GOD-SENT, if we do not believe the same things spiritually and we are convinced that what we believe is the truth of God’s Word, then we must cling to it and let the idea of a relationship with that man go, no matter how upstanding his character seems and how much we are attracted to him.

The Word of God tells us to let God be true but every man a liar (Romans 3:4) and that we are not ignorant of the devil’s devices (2 Corinthians 2:11). For, the enemy of our soul and therefore, the one who is opposed to our spiritual success, will sometimes send someone that looks like an angel of light, just to take you off course, to get you to compromise on your faith, to silence you on the truth you have been promoting and to mess up your life and testimony. He achieves this by sending men that look like good Church boys but are really imitations, imposters or at best, carnal Christians and if you are not discerning, you can easily find yourself smitten by the wrong one and outside the will of God for your life. Even if that man is genuinely saved, if you don’t agree on the basics spiritually and what you hold dear to your heart as truth, then going down that path is not worth it. You are bound to regret it.

How can you sell out the Word of God, for a man? Judas Iscariot did it for thirty pieces of silver because Jesus is the Word and if you go down the path of compromise, you will be no different.

In John 6:67-68, Jesus asked his disciples if they would do as others had done and walk away from following him. In reply, Peter said: “Lord, to whom shall we go? THOU HAS THE WORDS OF ETERNAL LIFE.”

The same applies to your situation. Irrespective of what has to be given up, we must deny ourselves and what we want and keep following Jesus, who is the Word. He has the words of eternal life and will therefore lead us on the right path. Abandoning what we know to be true and compromising so as to make things work with that man we are interested in, will lead us not closer to Lord but away from him. We must not therefore go, no matter the allure and no matter the temptation to do so, by our flesh.

Shed tears if you must therefore, over the disappointment or loss because you truly liked the guy and truly wished that finally, he would be it, that God had sent the one that he intended for you to marry. Grieve a bit, even as I have done over my situation because I truly liked the guy. Yet, know that nothing outside of the will of God that you say no to, could ever truly be a loss. Pursuing the will of God, even when it brings discomfort to self is where the blessings lie. Sacrifice and denying self is what is well-pleasing in the sight of God.

When all else is in doubt, STICK with the Word of God. It never lies and you would never go wrong. You can’t trust feelings but you can trust the Word of God. It is your compass, your guide, your protection and it will always direct your path.

Never did I think that at this stage in my life, that God would allow what I wrote about at Article 200 of the Bible-Believing Daughters page entitled, “No Turning Back, No Turning Back”, to be put to the test but it seems that he has. I have met someone, who seems to be a Christian and may very well be, who is upstanding in character, attractive and seems to be a gentleman but there are some issues of disagreement on what we believe. For example, he embraces some types of music as acceptable gospel music, when I don’t. I abhor such music as irreverential and lacking in sobriety. This is just one area of other areas I have noted, so that to go down the path with him as my husband and head, would undoubtedly mean to compromise on my beliefs. It would mean to let go of what I know to be true.

I have therefore seen the need to pray:

Father in heaven, please give me the courage to do right by your Word. Deliver me from every man that is not your perfect will for my life. Grant me discernment and help me not to go down the path of compromise but to stand in your Word, even if it means that I continue on as a single woman. Remove every attraction I may feel to any man that is not your will for my life, even if he is a Christian. I want your perfect will over every allure. Help me to pass this test Lord. Help me Lord and keep me, in Jesus’ mighty name I ask, Amen.

(Written on 25th March, 2023)

Dear Reader, if you found the above Article to be interesting, informative, beneficial or edifying, you may also be interested in reading the following under the ‘Bible-believing Daughters of God’ page:

Note 200 – “No Turning Back, No Turning Back”
Note 276 – ‘An Angel Of Light?‘

Additionally, under the ‘SINGLE Daughters’ page:

Note 8 – ‘My Quick Ten Point Checklist – Is He The One?‘
Note 51 – ‘Characteristics Of A Counterfeit‘
Note 53 – ‘God-sent vs Devil-sent – The Difference’
Note 55 – ‘I Want To Go Where I Have Never Been Before’
Note 58 – ‘To Tell If He’s The One Put On Your Spiritual Glasses’
Note 137 – ‘Who To Marry?’
Note 144 – ‘Before You Say ‘I Do’
Note 145 – ‘Does He Love You Or Lust You?’
Note 258 – ‘The Man Of The World vs The Man Of God’
Note 260 – ‘Common Sense Tips For Choosing The Right One’
Note 268 – ‘Making The Wrong Decision Can Be Costly – When You Don’t Wait On God To Introduce You To Your Spouse’
Note 274 – ‘I Being In The Way, The Lord Led Me – A Match Made In Heaven’
Note 300 – ‘God’s Traffic System’
Note 322 – ‘Should I Allow Him To Pursue?’
Note 323 – ‘When God Gives You The Green Light’