57. ADVICE AND INFORMATION FOR THE SINGLE, COURTING OR ENGAGED WOMAN

(The Called To Be A Wife Series – Batch 3)

SINGLE, COURTING OR ENGAGED LADIES…

Girl meets boy, Boy asks her out, Boy later proposes, they get married and live happily ever after.

Isn’t that how the narrative goes in our minds? If we’re honest, most of us (although not all) harbour this dream and hold it close to our hearts. We want that successful relationship and family life and we place it high on our list of priorities.

But how does a single woman really achieve ‘success’ in this life and what really is success? Are there principles that we can be guided by? What did the one who created us intend for us as women and does he have any advice to give? How are we expected to navigate through our singleness and how do we deal with the baggage that some of us have, whether it be heartbreak, rejection, bitterness, non-forgiveness, low self-esteem or loneliness?

Whether you’re single and looking for a boyfriend or single and content or single (as in not yet married) but you’re interested in someone and may even be courting them or engaged, there are topics you can find on my ‘SINGLE Daughters of God’ Page, as I have listed below, that can help you:

• (1) Properly understand your worth;
• (2) Appreciate the significance of your single season (whether this is temporary or permanent) and
• (3) To make the right choices in life to ensure you take the path of success!

Whatever your situation, the ARTICLES listed below will help, guide, encourage and support you, while giving valuable information and advice, based on the principles laid down in God’s Word, the Bible, which is true.

Skim through the topics below which have been compiled under eleven (11) headings, to find the Article you want to read. Then, simply type or copy and paste the name of the Article in the search bar and press ‘enter’.

Happy reading and whether you’re single, courting or engaged, here’s to hoping you make the right choices! Your future depends on it.

(A) WOMEN DESIRING TO BE MARRIED

• 2 – I Desire To Be Married
• 42 – When That Door Wouldn’t Budge
• 43 – Claiming The Promises Of God (Part One)
• 44 – Claiming The Promises of God (Part Two)
• 45 – I Know The Plans I Have For You
• 63 – When My Turn Comes
• 64 – I Want To Look Resplendent
• 66 – Something Borrowed
• 70 – Has He Forgotten Me?
• 94 – How To Be Blessed
• 117 – Whose Report Will You Believe?
• 126 – Will He Make It?
• 127 – I Believe That It Is Possible, Even Now
• 132 – Yes I Am Single (For Now) And I Am Not Married (As Yet!)
• 146 – Three Idols In the Church: Getting Married, Having Children and Working A Secular Job
• 150 – What the Bible Has To Say About Singleness, Marriage and Widowhood
• 164 – Seven (7) Mindsets That Will Keep You Stuck In The Land Of Sterility
• 222 – Suffering? Bad Attitudes That Will Only Make It Worse
• 237 – I Want To Be Blessed!
• 251 – God Will Not Send You A Man To Love If You Do Not Love The Brethren
• 254 – Seven (7) Reasons Why You May Still Be Single
• 255 – This Daughter of the King

(B) LESSONS AND TIPS FOR THE SINGLE WOMAN HOPING TO ONE DAY BE MARRIED

• 9 – Tidbits God Deposited Into My Spirit As A Single Woman
• 40 – Please…Allow Him To Blow Your Mind
• 41 – Silencing The Naysayers
• 42 – When That Door Wouldn’t Budge
• 43 – Claiming The Promises Of God (Part One)
• 44 – Claiming The Promises of God (Part Two)
• 45 – I Know The Plans I Have For You
• 46 – The Sins Of The Tongue (External Author 1)
• 47 – The Sins Of The Tongue Reloaded (External Author 2)
• 48 – Taming the Tongue – What The Bible Says About Gossip
• 49 – Self-Inflicted Wounds
• 52 – Bringing God Glory On The Road From Being Gloriously Single To Gloriously Married
• 56 – Rebekah, Zipporah And Ruth – How They Got Found
• 57 – Comparison And Competition
• 59 – Nine (9) Tips For The Single Woman Hoping To Be Married
• 61 – Who Deserves The Glory?
• 62 – What I Want Out Of My Love Life
• 72 – Qualities That Got Women Noticed And Eventually Married To Good Men In The Bible
• 134 – The Manipulative Woman
• 136 – How I Used My Single Years To Pray, Preach, Plan and Prepare
• 137 – Serve God Wherever And In Whatever You Are Called
• 150 – What the Bible Has To Say About Singleness, Marriage and Widowhood
• 251 – God Will Not Send You A Man To Love If You Do Not Love The Brethren
• 253 – Seven (7) Practical Things You Can Do While You Wait On Your Prince Charming
• 254 – Seven (7) Reasons Why You May Still Be Single
• 256 – How Envy and Jealousy Blinds
• 261 – Seven (7) Ways To Do Single With A Good Attitude While Hoping To Be Married

(C) CHOOSING THE RIGHT ONE – A QUALITY HUSBAND

• 3 – Are You His Plan A?
• 8 – My Quick Ten Point Checklist – Is He The One?
• 18 – You Can’t Change Him
• 19 – You Are Not Perfect -Can He Handle That?
• 20 – Equation For Relationship Success
• 21 – When He Doesn’t See Your Worth
• 22 – When God Recommends Him
• 51 – Characteristics Of A Counterfeit
• 53 – God-sent vs. Devil-sent – The Difference
• 58 – To Tell If He’s The One Put On Your Spiritual Glasses
• 60 – Send Me Such A Man
• 67 – Will There Ever Be Such A Man?
• 68 – My Detailed List – What I Want In A Divinely Compatible Spouse
• 75 – The Danger Of Impatience – He’s Taking Too Long
• 126 – Will He Make It?
• 128 – God-sent Or Just God-ly?
• 131 – What I Need In A Spouse
• 143 – Does How You Feel Matter?
• 144 – Before You Say ‘I Do’
• 145 – Does He Love You or Lust You?
• 147 – How To Tell If He’s Your God-sent And Not Just God-ly
• 148 – What Does The Bible Say About Being Unequally Yoked With An Unbeliever?
• 255 – This Daughter of the King
• 257 – Looking For A Husband? God Will Not Send…
• 258 -The Man Of The World vs The Man Of God
• 259 – How We Let Our Guard Down As Women
• 260 – Common Sense Tips For Choosing The Right One

(D) PRAYING TO GOD FOR A SPOUSE

• 7 – I Wanted A Husband So I Petitioned The Throne Of Grace For One
• 31 – God Loves Persistence. Fight On!
• 38 – Praying: How To Get A Yes From God
• 40 – Please…Allow Him To Blow Your Mind
• 42 – When That Door Wouldn’t Budge
• 54 – Cause Me To Be Seen Lord
• 60 – Send Me Such A Man
• 70 – Has He Forgotten Me?
• 71 – Keep The Right One From Me Lord, Until…
• 94 – How To Be Blessed
• 155 – Prayer Using Words From God’s Word
• 191 – When God Blows Your Mind With His Answer And Leaves You Flabbergasted
• 205 – My Prayer For Deliverance From Solitude And For Positive Relationships
• 219 – Dear Wall
• 229 – I Want To Be Blessed!

(E) TRUSTING GOD TO WRITE YOU A LOVE STORY

• 5 – I Believe That God Is About To Send Him
• 12 – Placing God At The Wheel Of My Future Love Story
• 16 – I Already Know – I Will Have An Extraordinary Story
• 22 – When God Recommends Him
• 23 – My To-Do List – By Grace Alone
• 24 – The Road From You (Boaz) To Me (Ruth)
• 31 – God Loves Persistence. Fight On!
• 74 – The Devil Is A Liar
• 112 – Lessons I Have Learned From The Lazarus Story
• 126 – Will He Make It?
• 127- I Believe That It Is Possible, Even Now
• 132 – Yes I Am Single (For Now) And I Am Not Married (As Yet!)
• 148 – What Does The Bible Say About Being Unequally Yoked With An Unbeliever?
• 149 – The Dangers of Matchmaking

(F) WAITING – FOR A RELATIONSHIP, A HUSBAND AND SEXUAL INTIMACY

• 4 – I Intend To Make You Wait
• 42 – When That Door Wouldn’t Budge
• 73 – Wait For Your Ice-Cream
• 129 – Single Daughter Of God, Wait!
• 133 – The Beauty Of Sex
• 140 – Is Keeping Yourself Until Marriage Important?
• 182 – Sitting Still
• 253 – Seven (7) Practical Things You Can Do While You Wait On Your Prince Charming
• 259 – How We Let Our Guard Down As Women

(G) MOVING ON FROM YOUR PAST – FORWARD EVER, BACKWARD NEVER

• 139 – Have You Really Forgiven? Really?
• 151 – Have You Fallen But Desire To Get Back Up?
• 152 – The Devil Dwells In Ds
• 154 – They Say I Can’t But By God’s Grace I Will!
• 164 – Seven (7) Mindsets That Will Keep You Stuck In The Land Of Sterility
• 172 – What Do We Have To Show For Our Folly?
• 174 – They Can Think Whatever They Like – God Will Do Whatever He Pleases
• 175 – I’ve Got No Time To Mind Anybody’s Business
• 187 – Could It Be That You Don’t Like Her Because…
• 192 – Daily Affirmations – I Am Moving Forward
• 221 – What Is God Calling You To Cast Out Of Your Life?
• 232 – What Sin Does Once Introduced – Based On The Story Of Adam & Eve And Cain & Abel
• 234 – Blood – What God Requires For You To Obtain Forgiveness
• 236 – Are You On The Right Road?
• 242 – What Is Repentance?
• 241 – Come Away…To Jesus
• 252 – If You’ve Had Sex, Does That Mean That You And The Person Are Married In God’s Eyes?
• 278 – His Grace Is Sufficient And His Blood Is Enough

(H) THERAPY FOR OVERCOMING LONELINESS, SADNESS, BITTERNESS AND IMPATIENCE AS A SINGLE WOMAN

• 14 – Feeling Depressed? Realign Your Focus!
• 25 – When Loneliness And Impatience Set In
• 28 – The Five-fold Purpose of Suffering
• 42 – When That Door Wouldn’t Budge
• 43 – Claiming The Promises Of God (Part One)
• 44 – Claiming The Promises of God (Part Two)
• 45 – I Know The Plans I Have For You
• 46 – The Sins Of The Tongue (External Author 1)
• 47 – The Sins Of The Tongue Reloaded (External Author 2)
• 48 – Taming the Tongue – What The Bible Says About Gossip
• 49 – Self-Inflicted Wounds
• 50 – Making Sense of the Awful Stillness – The Process of Metamorphosis
• 73 – Wait For Your Ice-Cream
• 74 – The Devil Is A Liar
• 75 – The Danger Of Impatience – He’s Taking Too Long
• 101 – Attitude Is Everything – I’ll Bless Him Anyway
• 102 – Where’s Your Trust At?
• 105 – Are You Putting Yourself In The Line Of Fire?
• 106 – Are Some Of God’s Children More Loved And Favoured Than Others?
• 108 – Pain – God’s Tool For Our Spiritual Development
• 109 – And These Stones Shall Be For A Memorial Of What He Brought Me Through
• 112 – Lessons I Have Learned From The Lazarus Story
• 117 – Whose Report Will You Believe?
• 120 – Tired of the Storm, Sterility, Stagnancy and Silence? Create a Spiritual Safe House
• 135 – Are You At A Low Point In Life And Feeling Depressed?
• 142 – Single Woes – The Battles We Singles Fight Everyday
• 146 – Three Idols In the Church: Getting Marriage, Having Children and Working A Secular Job
• 150 – What the Bible Has To Say About Singleness, Marriage and Widowhood
• 151 – Have You Fallen But Desire To Get Back Up?
• 159 – Next Stop – Victory!
• 160 – When Serving God Doesn’t Seem To Make Sense
• 164 – Seven (7) Mindsets That Will Keep You Stuck In The Land Of Sterility
• 167 – Do You Have Imitation Faith Or Enduring Faith?
• 169 – When Those Closest To You Don’t Encourage And Support You
• 172 – What Do We Have To Show For Our Folly?
• 174 – They Can Think Whatever They Like – God Will Do Whatever He Pleases
• 175 – I’ve Got No Time To Mind Anybody’s Business
• 181 – I Wish I Were ‘U’
• 182 – Sitting Still
• 186 – The Pain I Felt In My Series Of Pit Experiences
• 187 – Could It Be That You Don’t Like Her Because…
• 189 – Arm Yourself: Suffering Is Part of The Christian’s Story
• 193 – God Calls Me Hephzibah
• 194 – It Is Well!
• 195 – When God Promises To Write-On A Write-Off
• 196 – A Hopeless End Or An Endless Hope?
• 197 – Left For Dead…Then Resurrected
• 198 – Tired, Weary And I Don’t Know What To Do
• 199 – God Comforted Me
• 200 – The Paradoxical Principles To Successful Living – God’s Manual
• 203 – Were You Deceived Or Disobedient?
• 204 – So You Have A Prayer Life – How Is Your Repentant Life?
• 205 – My Prayer For Deliverance From Solitude And For Positive Relationships
• 210 – Praise Him All The Day Long
• 211 – Dear Christian, Ever Felt Like You Had No One?
• 212 – Are You Chasing After Success?
• 215 – Our Difficulty Is God’s Opportunity
• 216 – Death Must Come Before The Resurrection
• 217 – From Bad…To Worse…To Deliverance
• 218 – Just One Thing May Be Holding You Back
• 219 – Dear Wall
• 220 – Remove That Mask – Let Them See Your Brokenness
• 221 – What Is God Calling You To Cast Out Of Your Life?
• 222 – Suffering? Bad Attitudes That Will Only Make It Worse
• 224 – Symptoms Of A Person Outside The Favour Of God
• 225 – Note to Self: Keep Building
• 256 – How Envy and Jealousy Blinds

(I) THE BEAUTY OF RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGE DONE GOD’S WAY

• 6 – When He Proposes
• 10 – What Therefore God Hath Joined Together…
• 11 – A God-approved Marriage Union – A Work Of Grace
• 13 – Precious Moments – I Can’t Wait
• 16 – I Already Know – I Will Have An Extraordinary Story
• 17 – The Significance Of An Engagement Ring
• 20 – Equation For Relationship Success
• 55 – I Want To Go Where I Have Never Been Before
• 62 – What I Want Out Of My Love Life
• 65 – It Is Such A Privilege To Be Presented
• 67 – Will There Ever Be Such A Man?
• 130 – Ladies, How Long Are You Prepared To Wait?
• 138 – Excerpt Of the Conversation of Mr. And Mrs. Doe – After The Wedding
• 140 – Is Keeping Yourself Until Marriage Important?
• 163 – The Bridal Train
• 252 – If You’ve Had Sex, Does That Mean That You And The Person Are Married In God’s Eyes?
• 255 – This Daughter of the King
• 268 – When You Don’t Wait On The Lord To Introduce You To Your Spouse

(J) YOUR VALUE AND WORTH AS A DAUGHTER OF GOD

• 15 – What Are You Wearing And Does God Approve?
• 21 – When He Doesn’t See Your Worth
• 141 – Three (3) Things Men Have Said To Me
• 255 – This Daughter of the King

(K) GLORIFYING GOD IN YOUR LOVE STORY

• 9 – Tidbits God Deposited Into My Spirit As A Single Woman
• 11 – A God-approved Marriage Union – A Work Of Grace
• 24 – The Road From You (Boaz) To Me (Ruth)
• 61 – Who Deserves The Glory?
• 65 – It Is Such A Privilege To Be Presented
• 71 – Keep The Right One From Me Lord, Until…
• 137 – Serve God Wherever And In Whatever You Are Called
• 163 – The Bridal Train
• 188 – Bring God Glory: Build With Excellence
• 214 – Your Story Is For His Glory
• 220 – Remove That Mask – Let Them See Your Brokenness