(The Setting A Good Foundation Series)
I’m married to him and I can’t think of any other that I would rather be in relationship with above him or any other that is more worthy of all that I am and all that I have, than him.
He loved me with an everlasting love, lifted me up from the dust when I was down and out of the mire when I was sinking. He gave me support, dried my tears when this world sent me crying, guided my footsteps to keep me from stumbling and whenever I fell, saw my bruises, healed my wounds and helped me back up again.
He has said he will be my strength in weakness, my light in the darkness, my refuge and strong tower, when troubles arise.
He is my compass. He is my anchor. He is my Captain. He is my first love.
I feel safe in his arms and secure in his presence, for his banner over me is love.
I am head over heels in love with him. I have vowed to be his for life and I have no regrets. For there is no one more deserving of a lifetime of devotion. I have entered into an irreversible and forever binding covenant with the one my soul loves and absolutely nothing and no one can separate me from his love.
There is no turning back. He has claimed me as his own, given me a new name, clothed me in royalty and said, you are mine.
THE NAME OF MY LOVE
The one that I am married to and have described above is the Lord Jesus Christ. He is the one that created you and me, paid the ultimate price for your sin and mine with his very life and blood and rose again from the dead on the third day because he is God. The marriage of which I speak is a spiritual one, a covenant that has been made possible solely through his shed blood.
Jesus, who was crucified for my sin, did not stay dead but rose back up from the grave on the third day because he is God the Son and all powerful. He is now back in heaven, having appeared unto many on earth after his resurrection from the dead, before returning on high. He has promised eternal life and salvation from hell when we die, to all those who believe that he died and rose again, confess the truth with their mouth that he is Lord and live a life surrendered to his Lordship, in obedience to his will, as stated in the Bible.
This loving relationship that I have with Jesus is available to you as well. In fact, he invites you to come.
Romans 10:9-13 states:
- “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
COVENANT WITH JESUS CHRIST AND THE MARRIAGE COVENANT
Those who put their trust in Jesus and have asked him to come into their heart by faith and save them are in relationship with him and the Bible describes this beautiful relationship as a covenant.
In fact, the very institution of marriage was designed by God to resemble and imitate the relationship and love that Jesus Christ (who the Bible describes as the bridegroom) has for those who are his (the Church). The Bible describes the Church (which means genuine Christians) as the bride of Christ.
Throughout scripture, God uses marital terms to describe those that he loves and who are in covenant with him. In Jeremiah 3:14 for example, when speaking of the Israelites with whom he had covenant, he stated that he is ‘married’ to the backslidder. In Isaiah 54:5, he described himself as the ‘husband’ of Israel. When Israel cheated on him time and time again, by turning away from him and running after other false gods and idols that could do nothing for them, he likened them to a ‘whorish’, ‘adulterous’ woman, who takes another man instead of her own husband (Ezekiel 16:32).
Those who know Jesus Christ as Lord and have relationship with him, know that he is the best lover of their soul. They know that the love he has for them is better than any love story they could ever have with any man on earth. Absolutely nothing else compares, for no earthly man, not even one of God’s sons, could ever love you as thoroughly, inside, out, as Jesus does.
CHOOSING A SPOUSE THAT REMINDS YOU OF JESUS
When it is time time to choose a spouse therefore, those who are in covenant with God through Jesus Christ, know that they need to look for someone that reminds them of Jesus. The man they marry will not be perfect because, like them, he is flawed. However, in his words and actions, he should give off an undeniable fragance of Christ because he too has relationship with the Lord.
Read the description above of the relationship a Christian has with the Lord Jesus Christ, again. Then, if there is a man in your life who you are engaged to or courting or interested in, if you are a Christian, consider whether the fruit that man gives, reminds you of what I have described of Jesus’ character above.
If it does and having PRAYED EARNESTLY to the Lord about it and WAITING on him to confirm that this is the one he wants you to marry, if you now have PEACE in your soul in moving forward because God has CONFIRMED after you sought him, that this union is of him, then congratulations! Make sure you honour HIM every step of the way and not your flesh.
If however, the relationship you have with this man is nothing like what I’ve described above and you’ve had mostly trials, turmoil, trouble and drama so far and feel heartbroken, confused, afraid, unloved, unappreciated, insecure, not understood or you’re about to get married but yet you feel dread, desperation, resentment, guilt or fear in moving forward, these are indications that you need to STOP.
Go and seek the will of God in prayer for your life and make sure you don’t make a move until he answers. It seems to me that he may be telling you that this is not the man for you. Please listen.
Marriage is a one-way street. Make sure you marry only the man of whom God approves. Anything else and you will be full of regrets for a lifetime, feeling trapped in a marriage that you were not supposed to be in in the first place. At that point, you can’t get out, as God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 KJV) and when a man and a woman get married, he considers them to be one for life. No divorce paper, Judge or earthly law can ever change that decree.
Make sure you get it right therefore. There is no room for error on this very important matter. Get it right.
(Written on 31st August, 2019)